Ah, the joys of email communication.
So many times, communication between people can break down simply because of how they’re using emails.
Ignoring how we use virtual communication when we look at relating to others, is like trying to run a car with a flat tyre: it’ll go but not very efficiently.
These three tips will keep that car away from the relationship breakdown garage, helping smooth the communication.
1. Irritation One: the words ‘should’:
For example, ‘You should let me know when you have authorisation for this and then I will action the request’. Similarly, replacing that with ‘have to’, which is even stronger, may start to annoy your recipient.
It could be seen as: patronising.
The Recommendation: replace ‘should’ and ‘have to’ with ‘You’ll need to’ or I’d strongly recommend that…’ This is easier to hear and act upon. It means the same without sounding like a finger-wagging parent.
2. Irritation Two: presumptuous wording such as ‘As you know…’ then adding totally new information that is unknown to everyone, but should have been known.
It could be seen as: someone covering their back
Recommendation: writing, ‘As you may know…’ and sticking to possibilities unless you can be certain.
3. Irritation Three: cc’ing in the boss, because you can’t get what you want from a colleague.
It could be seen as: trouble-making
Recommendation: if the communication is breaking down, go and see someone to get their advice. Usually, two adults should – excuse me – need – to be able to work it out between each other by saying:
a) what needs to be done and, perhaps, why the current situation could be problemetic
b) who will do it
c) finish with ‘As soon as you have this, I’ll be happy to help you’.
If the tone is constructive and respectful, there is less chance of being cold shouldered off line or email mud-slinging.
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